It is now halfway through June, and my last post was in April, if that tells you the way my life is going. I know so many moms who at least in appearance have it all together (the job, the house, the chores, the kids, etc.), but if I am truly honest with myself... I didn't have it ALL together before the girls got here.
I have noticed a negative trend with some women in regards to mothering: The dreaded mommy competition. I am telling everyone now I refuse to participate in this. We all parent differently. We all manage differently. No one way is presumably the best way. The point is mothering is a personal experience, and we each bring our own flare and style to it. I can appreciate your methods without practicing them as well as without degrading my own. I will not allow myself to second guess or doubt my abilities and talents as a parent based on people's opinion of them. I am not saying I do not want advice or aid in learning to parent, but I will not/cannot live my life competing for the Mrs. Universe of Mothering. Women should find unity and community in being a mother. It should be a common ground of trust, truth, and support. But I have seen it used to tear down other women in order to make others feel superior. This is sad and cruel. So fellow mothers, if you are looking for support, love, and advice/opinions on mothering: I will gladly be there in a jiffy. If however, you are looking to compete or criticize other mothers in order to win some superiority contest... look elsewhere. There I said it. Now off the soap box.
My personal struggles:
My days are filled with giggles, chasing rogue crawlers, diaper changes, baths, naps, and feeding, feeding, feeding my girls. I occasionally have a few minutes to spare for laundry, or dishes. But the overall mood of my home is well cluttered. Now this realization could be devastating for someone like me who craves order, organization, and structure. I may hate to clean, but I enjoy living in a clean environment. However, I am trying daily to make a conscious choice to do what I can, and not worry about the rest. When I am old and the girls are grown, I don't think I will think about the state of my house. I will be far more nostalgic about their daily lives, of which I am striving to be apart of.
I know that there will be days I lose this battle, and perhaps my grip, and become frustrated on the state of the house. But I am hoping that these days are far outnumbered by the days that I just simply enjoy the gift that God has given me and hang the housework!
ANY mommy/household running tips would be greatly appreciated! How do you juggle it all?
Twinformation:
The girls are 7 months 3 weeks. They are both crawling and pulling up. They have so much energy and personality. Every day is both an adventure and easier. I am not sure if this is because the hectic is becoming normal or because I am getting better at juggling them. :)
We have been to the beach and to visit the Great Grands in AL. I am able to take them out without having a panic attack, although I haven't quite learned to handle the celebrity that comes with running errands with twins. :S
I am planning on updating more often. Keep me accountable! If you have any questions post them on here and I'll do my best to answer them!
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